Is it immoral to meet an ex-partner while you are with a new one and lie to him/her about your previous relationship with this ex-partner and claim that you have only ever been friends even when the current partner explicitly asks the question, 'have you ever been in a relationship with this person?'
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angusparent
- 2009-09-18 @ 13:37:50
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neonmeatdreams
- 2009-09-18 @ 16:04:48
True I thin kthe little things inevitably lead to bigger and bigger lies.
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GilraenH
Pro - http://www.gilraen.blog.co.uk
- 2009-09-18 @ 15:52:24
Yes - because if the truth comes out, then the new partner will wonder why you lied and probably not trust you in the future.
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neonmeatdreams
- 2009-09-18 @ 16:04:10
Thanks for the answer!
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SeasideMan
Pro - 2009-09-18 @ 15:57:58
I would say it's immoral, and also unwise.
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neonmeatdreams
- 2009-09-18 @ 16:05:34
Ha yeah not the smartest move.
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trulyfab
- 2009-09-18 @ 17:07:22
I asked out right then it's hands up time, that's a lie and it's quite a biggie when it comes to relationships. If it wsa my partner trust would be out the window
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neonmeatdreams
- 2009-09-21 @ 17:02:21
i think I agree, if the question has been asked then a lie means goodbye trust. Where as if there has been no prior suggestion a lie of ommission wouldn't be so bad maybe.
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- 2009-09-19 @ 18:56:55
It may be convenient to you but it doesn't show a lot of committment to or respect for her , and , would it bother you if it was the other way round , if it was her lying to you about another relationship ?
Brave of you to ask advice here !
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neonmeatdreams
- 2009-09-21 @ 17:04:55
As a matter of fact it is the other way round, I thought here would be a good place to get some other perspectives on the matter, to see if I may be blowing things out of proportion. Thanks for you answer!
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- 2009-09-22 @ 01:22:29
Oops , misconstrued , sorry !
Martin .
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safriz
- http://www.conspiror.blog.co.uk
- 2009-09-19 @ 23:30:28
if you call some one an "ex",they should be forgotten.
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neonmeatdreams
- 2009-09-21 @ 17:20:38
Thanks for the answer, I agree all mine are ling forgotten...thank god!
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electrochick
- http://electrochick.blog.co.uk
- 2009-09-20 @ 20:13:04
If you suspect he/she may already know the truth - then be honest, or you'll be revealed as someone who can't be trusted.
If you are absolutely certain he/she couldn't possibly know then, and only then, it might be better for him/her not to know.
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gardengirl
- 2009-09-20 @ 20:19:27
Yes I would say it is. It could break all trust as people have already mentioned.
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neonmeatdreams
- 2009-09-21 @ 17:21:23
Yeah its defintely a make or break type of thing.
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mattk
- 2009-09-21 @ 12:34:20
Whether it's immoral or not is for you to judge. It's dishonest though, and sounds like a very bad idea!
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neonmeatdreams
- 2009-09-21 @ 17:22:10
Ha yeah its not something i'm going to be doing myself I think. Thanks for the answer.
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psychobabble85
- 2009-09-24 @ 15:53:54
Yes its immoral. You should never lie to your partner. The truth always comes out in the end and hurts more because you lied. You should ask yourself why you are lying about your ex.
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neonmeatdreams
- 2009-09-25 @ 12:11:19
This question, believe it or not, is not about me. Imagine the situation you are talking about and reverse it, it is me asking the question 'have you ever been in a relationship with this person'. Thanks for the answer though, I agree with you.
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Whether or not it is immoral, it could lead to a breakdown in trust in the future if he/she finds out.
It could also lead to a series of lies, ratcheting up to bigger ones little by little because at each step the alternative would be to own up to the previous lie.
Break down in trust and bigger and bigger lies equals breakdown in relationship.