Ask or Answer.

well in my never ending quest to give as much exposure to the underground metal scene in srilanka i came across a band who said: "suicide is the sincerest form of self criticism."
its a rather puzzling thing to say isnt it? if it is the sincerest form of criticism, and you do commit suicide what then will you have to look back on and analyze if you are dead?
but on the whole..the question of suicide. i have been thinking (no dont worry, i havent been contemplating) people have condemned it as cowardly. but for those of you who have suffered under depression im sure you would agree that it takes a lot for you to act- it takes a lot of nerve to just simply finish it off...how then can it be cowardly?
we kill ourselves everyday just to live...isnt it better to just finish it off? thats something the band i interviewed pointed out..and i must admit...they do have their point...hmmm..what do you guys think? apart from the universal ideal that it is a cowardly act why do you think suicide is wrong? or do you think suicide is justified?

my say on this is that suicide is a violent disruptor. it shatters a lot of cycles and affects everyone around-this in turn creates more problems and endless cycles of problems and so on and so forth...but more than that i think there is something we are oblivious to. its not just the social structure and individuals that are affected, somehow i think that something greater is affected by this violent and sudden ending. its a violation, not a choice...hmmm..or maybe not...im not too clear on it....hmmm...what do you think?

A family friend's son committed suicide on Thursday. The family in question all the time I have known them (17 years) have been devout to their religion. Participating members of their congregation who have served with unwavering diligence. The young man in question was under psychiatric care at the time and as such was suffering an episode of a mental illness and I would argue that he could not at the time of his actions fairly be held accountable for them. This is my dilema - The very church which this family fellowship with have refused to permit a funeral service of faith.

Who is the funeral for? He that is departed or is it the platform of farewell for those who have lost a loved one. Where is the compassion for fellow mankind in the time of their tragedy. As these parents come to terms with their tragic loss, and the manner in which it occurred they too have to choose between their religion of choice and the support of their friends, or the son whom they loved dearly. How does this exhibit love, forgiveness and redepmtion? People want to know why the Christian church at large, albeit not all religions are a dying commodity. People want to know why there is so much stigma and prejudice in society and why mankind has become so selfish. Well may I put forward, that maybe, just maybe and it really is a long shot here - behaviour such as this disillustions those already lost...

Someone, somewhere must be able to explain this situation but to me, it simply makes no sense especially as those who believe in a Christian faith are expected to follow Jesus example, loving thy neighbour as we love ourself and to weep with those who weep.

Or does that apply when we sin in the eyes of man, because I also thought we were commanded a) not to judge lest we be judged ourselves and b) to love the sinner but reject the sin. But hey what do I know????

i know im being anti-social when i say this..but every time i open up( and its something i find very hard to do) things just...get worse! id rather not open up to anyone at all but its always happening...! grr..its very very annoying. i hate depending on people for anything at all, even my own father. i just hate it but we have to i guess...someway or the other we tend to depend on ppl and the worst bit is when dependence comes with attachment...:S why the hell man...im working on isolating myself from everybody now. just cut all the ties and keep everything to myself no matter how unhealthy it is. isnt it better than opening your heart and making yourself so vulnerable and insecure? :S *sigh*

Mankind’s biggest weakness- interdependence. We are bound to everything, chained and nailed. We dream of freedom but we can never have any. Interdependence in every breath we take…

The corpulent mist forming before my eyes gave way,
Bit by bit it slowly dissolved into my tears
Turning to vapor before they could be tasted.
The words stuck in my throat slowly unwound
Encircling you with its circean head and fangs raised
My hidden passion bled on your lips so red,
And I unwind, my purity before ye lay bare,
Abundant fruits in fields vast-
The berry you plucked stains your mouth,
The crimson juice running down your chin,
But the serpent falls to her own charm in perilous Eden
And drinks deep from your poison blood stream-
Ah! Bound deeper than blood, our veins merging into one,
Camouflaged I was in your arms, hidden by the bounty,
But alas! Where art thou when I seek you in earnest?
Alas! Winter touches the far reaches of my heart,
Hark, taste the dry wind carrying no hind of a love shared.
Where art thou my lord, you have left me a flower transparent withering
Under the gaze of Sol…and so the petals close with a snap,
The passion sealed within that trap, the shadows ride past the
Cobwebs of feeble light and alone I lay…my reflection hiding away…

Interdependence strikes its shattering chord, and insecurity gnaws at the roots of the tree of life, oh why did I leave the gates of my world open for you to witness?

Plain disrespect, iggnorance or a coping method for bad situations? Which do you think?
Whenever something bad happens joke circulate the net or by text.
Harmless fun or not. let's have your thoughts. PM any examples

Now there is a statement of controversy. Who is to say that the right way, is in fact the right way, and the wrong way the wrong way? If there are more ways to Rome, than by road is there not more ways than one to do anything? Is it not subjective, and I admit i am as guilty as the next person on this score, to assume that ones chosen modus opperande is the only one? Is that not to a form of supremecy, bigottry and prejudice? Just a point to ponder...

To illustrate this ethos, within a relationship as one submits to the will of the other individual without measure of compromise there is a win / lose situation. How can we truthfully be happy at the compromise of those whom we love in order to achieve our own way?

How is it we as individuals can celebrate our success in the victories over others when they have been trampled on, and in some cases crushed in the process? Yet we have established our own way, marking theirs as that of a loser?

It came in a big box and was wrapped lovingly, she stood there while I opened it, the latest all singing, all dancing printer/scanner/copier from Hewlett-Packard.

I already had my nice Epsom printer, good enough for anything that I wished to print and the cost of ink cartridges was half that of the HP ones.

Anyone want a printer? No, it's the Epsom one.

A colleague recently told me he would never travel on his own. I do it all the time. Another colleague wisely replied that either option has advantages and drawbacks.

Would you / do you travel on your own?

One has to ask the question of how we as a society have managed to get to a place where a multitude of individuals have lost all sense of individuality.

Living in a somewhat nanny state, where there are government guidelines on all manner of irrelevent matters such as minimum food requirements, medical needs etc, yet not one of these issues are reached, resolved or recorded in any way that affords truth.

Parenting classes, apparently available to all parents of children with special needs, have had to be put on hold due to lack of tutors - well hang on, what happened to the youngsters who have never been parents that were specifically trained for these posts. Oh yeah I forgot they could not face the music or take the ride once the rubber hit the road. well in times gone by, and dare I say it in yesteryear, the elders of society would afford council to the wayward youth, or the parents thereof. But they cant do that now as it is not their right. The fact that they have years of wisdom, and a vast experience from which to draw they are not qualified to guide parents who dont know how to parent. The fact they have brought up, children, grand children and in some cases great grandchildren who all productive members of society does not serve as testament to their prowess. Nor does it carry any credence to their level of character instead we get to have the priviledge of listening to some cocky upstart, who has learned by rote to parrot propeganda and set us on the straight and narrow.

Better still, said tutor happens to be a single parent, who's child is under a behaviour management strategy programme because it has ADHD. Said tutor has plenty of examples of why the programme does not work, is from a demographic of the population already marginalized and then set up to fail. Yeah right but it is sold as equal opportunities for the under privileged. Where are people's brains? Where is the ability for one to think for themselves? Where are the articulate, intelligent minds of the people to question the press propoganda fed us by the political beurocrats?

By no means nor measure do I say that old people cannot learn from the younger, but there is a lot to be said for experience over theory in many aspects of life. How is it that we as a populace cannot hear what is acutally being said, behind the slogans of those in command. Slogans designed to appease and not achieve???

Does anyone know if Somerset House in London still issue copies of Birth/Marriage certificates as I need them for researching family tree?

Any tips on how to stop watercolours bleeding or running into one another? (e.g. placing a darker colour onto a lighter one!)

Thanks!

The Conservative Party are considering making the post of Chief Constable an electable position in their next manifesto.

Would a Chief Constable, elected by the local electorate, provide better policing than we have at present?

That a loser like me would win the lottery lol :-):-)

Of course, most, if not all, would say no, but, maybe there are circumstances when it is the only approach to save lives.

One terrorist's torture to save thousands of lives in a bombing?

Your child has been kidnapped, locked away, requires daily medicine to keep them alive, the kidnapper admits to doing the kidnapping but will not say where the child is?

Can torture ever be the right course of action?

... if there is such a thing, what would you like to be re-born as? And why? If human, what should be different to your current life?

If you're a man: would you want to be re-born as a woman?

If you're a woman: would you want to be re-born as a man?

Just being nosey ...

Some of you know that I got a load of hassle from a person called Lie Woman when I got married to my ex.

I still can't work out the whole reason for it, but the biggest part was her feeling that she hadn't got what she deserved from life. I won't go into her details.

She treated me like I'd stolen something from her. Told us of god-given dreams she'd had, of how we shouldn't get married. Told me she'd had a vision of how she shouldn't be at my baptism, etc. Lots of snide insinuations etc.

She'd had a one night stand with my ex when he was drunk and 18 yrs old. Now, he wouldn't touch her with someone else's but; as came out in the counselling, felt he had to 'keep her sweet' ... running around after her and placating her when she was kicking off about something.

I got the same thing from Mad Woman at one point too. Before I met my ex, she'd had a crush on him. He was in no way interested. On one occasion she turned round in church and took a photo of him!

What I want to know is ... have any of you had the same kind of thing happening with someone who had a thing about your partner?

and

How did you deal with it?

Last night I heard about a sad yet interesting case (again) in a call-in show:

A woman comes home early from work and finds her fiancé in bed with her BEST friend, having sex, of course. Woman is six months pregnant, too.

One of the first things the two cheaters said was: "it's not what it looks like". What an utterly stupid thing to say.

I've often wondered what I would do in such a situation, especially when they'd say that sentence. I HOPE that I'd have the nerve to say (in the most sniding and coldest voice I could muster): "Well, it looks like sex and cheating on your partners to me, and that's EXACTLY what it is!" - and then kick them out.

What would YOU do in such a situation?

I'm just wondering, as a child who is responsible for how we are molded? Are we how we are as adults because of our upbringing...or because of us, ourselves?

Just wanted to know other peoples views, thanks

Let us know about your pet,
What is it?
What name?
And how about a picture?

Name...Harry.
Pet....Cat.

Is anyone else getting invites to join circles from vague profiles...normally based far afield? Like India, Malaysia etc? They seem to have strange connections to Financial Institutions? Makes me cagey!

I posted this on my own blog and would like to read the views of others.

Last night, listening to a chat show on the radio, they were discussing "love", it was St Valentines Day. None of those that chatted away gave a definition of what "love" is.

I think that "love" is caring. I care about my children, I care about my grandchildren, I care about my lady friend. During the time that I am not with them I think about them, of what they are doing, where they are and how they are feeling. I miss them when I don't see them.

Yes, those that I love I care about.

Now God created Adam, and, from Adams rib he created Eve. Two sons were born, Cain and Able.

Cain kills Abel.

Now we have Adam, Eve and Cain remaining.

What happened next?

Does anyone know where I can get hold of a large wall-mounted spice rack (preferably that holds up to 50 or more herbs and spices)?

Today has happen a very unhappy thing on me..T_T
Yesterday i had a gathering with some former classmate...it's important..
It's sort like a farewell party for one of our friend...
but I'm absent...because something had happen in my house...
Today I sms them and tried to explain it to them..
but they rejected me...
they said I'm egoistic and arrogant..why?!
I'm very sad they do this to me!
why they dun understand me!!?
Can you help me?..
Tell me what to do, so that they will accept my apologies...
pls!

"Simple Simon met a pie man going to the fair"

Was Simple Simon going to the fair, or, was the pie man going to the fair?

( These important questions just have to be asked )

I know someone who lives in a caravan which has got me thinking if someone asks for your address what do you tell them how do you get your mail how do you get electricity and gas how do you get water

How many times do I have to tell you...
My ear hurts! Yesterday, I paid a visit to the Doctor and told him about my wellbeing (or should I say the lack of it) One of the things that I complained about was my left ear which has been giving me discomfort in varying degrees for some time now.

Well, the doc took my pulse and blood pressure, looked in my mouth and ears then declared that it (the offending left ear) was clear and nothing appeared to be wrong with it. Today, the pain is worse, it's not unbearable, as I know earache can be, but it IS pain, and it's annoying, what am I supposed to do?

I keep getting this message:

Tag p is not allowed within tag span

when I try to post. It looks fine in the preview. Any clues as to what I should search for? Is this common?

I want to preserve a scrapbook of my son, done when he was 8yrs old....30 plus yrs ago; he used a foolscap size ringback book....we want to preserve the book/pages in foolscap sized plastic pockets...have searched and enquired everywhere (?); even 'googled' for help! Any helpful suggestions, PLEASE?

Hi everyone,
I don't know if it's the right place for asking it,
but since today my poor green blog has a problem...
I'm a dummy blogger so I just don't understand anything about scripts and codes,
but I've never had problems with my blog's settings until today!!
I didn't change anything about the design, layout, etc, but NOW
the YouTube videos I put as widgets in my right column, appears like cut out!!
Here is my poor blog, Eating Monkeys with Cake, look:
the problem is right there in the right column..
I'm very sad about it, please, can someone help me??

Thank you so much,

Thomas

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Am I imagining it, or have I done something inadvertently but, it seems I used to be notified whenever there was New Post from one of my friends....not only comments on my posts...now, I seem not to be getting notification - by e-mail - of all new posts from friends! Has this rookie over=reached himself and inadvertently done something amiss? Enlightenment, please?????

Don't worry, I'm not expecting anyone to answer the question. But I think it's something we all could consider.

Here are some hard hitting questions put together by Dr Phil.

Ask yourself the hard questions:

• What is it doing to you on the inside?
• How much fun are you to live with?
• How do you think it feels for your loved ones if you are always unsatisfied with your life?
• What do you want that you don't have?
• Is it just a bigger house, a better car, more money?
• How much is enough?
• Is it just a possession that you want or is it a feeling of never being good enough?
• What should have happened in your life that didn't?
• What is your definition of success?
• Are you so busy feeling sorry for yourself and whining about what you don't have, that you haven't asked yourself what is missing?
• If you don't know what you want, how do you know you don't have it?
• How much time do you spend asking yourself how you can use your skills and abilities to create a life that is satisfying?
• How much time do you spend lamenting what you don't have and how you feel put upon?

This is just for fun - prompted by an item on Loose Women

WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE TO HAVE A FANTASY SNOG WITH?

This is all new to me so:

Just off to cut my toe nails!